My wife and I have been together for 5 years, and she has never been one to nag me about anything. We’ve both been working hard, and she took a second shift assignment that pays really well so we can save for a house faster. We agreed it was a good temporary move, and I thought everything was fine. Turns out, I missed some important signs.
When I get home, I only need to heat dinner up because it’s waiting in the fridge for me. The house is picked up, the laundry is done and I can relax for the evening. I’ve missed spending time with her, but she is generally busy at night because she doesn’t want to spend the weekends keeping up with housework and errands. I did ignore a few notes about switching loads of laundry and doing a few errands, but I thought it was no big deal. After all I thought, she has all day to clean the house and run errands before she goes to work.
I came home today, and nothing had been done. At first I was a bit miffed at her, but then I realized I sit around and relax all night instead of helping out. It finally hit me that she works at home all day. Since she’s not one to nag, I took it for granted that she was fine doing everything around the house. Right now, I’m thinking about how selfish I’ve been for not helping her out.
It took forever, but I finally got the laundry done and the bed made. Picking up my things around the house is the next step, but I need to make myself some dinner first. There’s a lot of housework to be done, and I never noticed how much effort it took. Beginning with tonight, I’m going to help her out because taking care of us is a lot of work. My wife is wonderful, and I’m glad I’ve finally noticed it.